How can I get my partners to stop using dildos? i noticed that most of my partners prefer dildos. If Im gay then I dont like penis.. I dont get it. Plus a womens orgasm comes from the outside of her vagina not the inside. |
First off, women can totally have internal orgasms. I'm sure you've heard of the G-Spot, right? Women can have anal orgasms as well. Orgasms can occur from any sort of stimulation, not just clitoral.
That being the case, there are plenty of tools that a woman can use to achieve an internal orgasm. Yes, many of these are phallic in nature (penis-shaped dildos), but they aren't all that way.
You're a lesbian so you don't like men. That's fine. You don't like penis either. That's also fine. There are some feminist lesbians who will reject anything related to men and include the very idea of using any sort of tool that resembles a penis in any way. That's great, though I'd say a little misguided.
And even if that's how you feel, that doesn't mean your partners feel the same way. They don't have to like men or penises to want to explore and enjoy their sexuality. Maybe they get more pleasure out of an internal orgasm and that's why they enjoy using a dildo. Maybe they like the feel of being f*cked even if they don't want to be with a man. Maybe they were with men before they became women and they just don't know any other way. Whatever the reason, you can't assume that just because you don't like something or feel it's wrong, that they should or do feel the same way.
Take some time to discuss it with them. Let them know how you feel and ask them how they feel. Personally, I'm of the opinion that everyone should take time to explore their own sexuality and find out what they like and dislike before saying that something is wrong. To put down the idea of using a dildo because it resembles a penis without even trying it is, to me, about a closeminded as a straight man who refuses to explore facets of his own sexuality out of fear of being considered gay.
Take some time to think about it, talk about it with your partners, and maybe try things out before you condemn them. It's your body and your sexuality. Have fun. Explore! |
I just started masturbating and i was looking for new ways other than a shower bu not using dildos or anything? i am only 14 and have limited access to things |
| How about this you have a bathtub? is so run the water from the bottom how ever you want the pressure to be if you wan alot of pressure you run alot of water and so on.lay on your back and move your self all the way up to the water running down so the water is hitting your vagina after awhile it starts to target your g-spot and walah! |
Virgins using dildos????? what do you think about virgins using dildos??
Do you think it is wrong or fine??
Do you know of anyone that is and using them or have you yourself been one??
What about , before they have a sex with a guy for the 1st time do you think, she should tell him that she has used dildos |
There's nothing wrong with a virgin using a dildo.
Although if she wants to save her virginity for a man she loves, its advisable to avoid using one.
And before having sex for the first time, I think yes a woman should tell her guy that she has used the dildo. |
What is the hadith about using dildos? there is one about using the severed penis of an animal |
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Can dildos cause a woman to lose her virginity? I'm turning 18 soon, so don't give me any guy comments.I just want to know if using dildos will change the size of a woman's vagina the same way it does when having sex. Does this mean her Virginity is lost? Please give me a good answer. |
Your virginity will not be lost, you have to have intercourse to lose that.
However, it may break your hymen. This is something different to losing your virginity, but in some cultures the two are (perhaps falsely) related. I say falsely, because some cultures take the lack of an intact hymen as being a sign of having lost one's virginity, which it is not correct.It can be broken in many other ways. |
Does using large dildos ruin your sex with your husband? I was curious how many girls have used dildos that are much bigger than there husband or boyfriend. I bought my wife a large one a few months ago. I'm fairly large but this one definitely trumps me. she loves it and i love watching her with it but I wonder if she uses it too much will it make it difficult to enjoy regular sex with me. Just looking for any serious input on this from anyone who has had experience. Not interested in funny, annoying, or derogatory comments. |
It's bigger, newer, and different. Different doesn't have to mean bad.
The toy is never going to say I love you, snuggle up to her, make her feel better when she is sick, or from a sexual stand point, It can't pull her hair and smack her ***.
If she's using it and watching you enjoy her using it, she's probably getting of on that, more than the toy itself!
A little background- my hubby and I were only married a short time when I decided to sell toys at home-parties. Neither of us had ever used them before, I just wanted to make extra money. When he saw my starter kit, he was about ready to pack up and leave. He immediately assumed I no longer needed him because I'd have access to all these toys. What we have learned is, for us, toys have never become a replacement, but an ENHANCEMENT to our sex life. It's a very rare occasion that I use toys without him.
Oh- and as far as her "getting too loose", the vagina always returns to it's normal size, the muscular contractions that happen during orgasm see to that. So unless she's given birth in the past 20 minutes, she is the same size she was when you met. She can also do kegel exercises to maintain tightness. |
Lesbians, is using dildos and vibrators "cheating"? Is it?
Why not the real thing. Please explain to me.
I am a Lesbian... and I'm confused. (I don't like that stuff, penises ;~;) |
I'd say its a form of masturbation, which is healthy for anyone. Most of us have a sex life with our partner and a sex life with ourselves.
And you don't need to like "that stuff". its not for you. But if someone else does like it, what's it to you? If you expect to be the "say all and be all" to another person, sexually, you have another thing coming!
You sound like you have jealousy issues maybe, and that will eat you up! Lighten up and let her be who she is and enjoy what you two do share...
Best of luck! |
Is using a dildo a good way to make losing your virginity less painful? I am old enough, mature enough and a have a very loving and understanding boyfriend. I would much rather get the painful part over with on my own however; as I have a very low pain tolerance. I figure using a dildo would be enough to break my hymen and allow my vaginal muscles to stretch and I could do it gradually. Thoughts? |
Unlike the other posters, I don't think it's a horrible idea. Some doctors will surgically break it to make the first time more enjoyable, but you may not want to go thru all that. You can probably do it yourself if you're willing to endure the discomfort.
Still, the first time is rarey the best experience for women. Gets better with time. Good luck. |